Wednesday, September 20, 2006

Momma D Visits

I just received a new comment from Betina and she said she would like to hear more about Asha's birthmom visiting us this summer.

Well to start with we weren't sure when we were matched with Asha's birthmom how open the adoption would be. We were willing to be VERY open but her birthmom wasn't sure what she wanted yet. When Asha was born and we were able to spend that week with her birthmom we decided that we would try to see them (Asha's birthmom and bio brother and sister) at least once a year. If money allows we would love to go down there once a year and bring them up here once a year but she is very understanding and is ok with only once a year visits.

Momma D as we call Asha's birthmom is a grad student, supporting 2 children on her own and working as an intern to help put her through college so she was having a very stressful year and we decided to bring her and her son up her so she had to rest. We knew if we went down there she would continue to try and work so up here they came. Momma D's other daughter did not come because she was spending the summer in Jamaica with Momma D's aunt. How lucky is that little girl!!!

We bought their plane tickets and picked them up at the airport. It was great to see them again and to get caught up. We do pretty well communicating via e-mail but it's nicer to talk rather than type.

They were here for 5 days and we did so much that week. The first day we just got caught up and let them get settled here. The next day we went to the local fair and unfortunately her son did not like most of the rides and ended up crying ALOT. The next day we drove to the zoo and had a wonderful picnic. Then the day before they had to leave we had a cookout with our families so they could get to know her as well. It was very nice and she liked our families very much. The last day we had a big breakfast and took them to the airport. Saying good bye was hard but with her son and Asha pulling us in different directions we didn't get to be all emotional.

Asha loved Momma D and we actually think she called her it a few times. Asha would put her head on Momma D and say "ove" (love) and would hug her head if she was sitting on Momma D's shoulders. It was so cute!!! Momma D also put corn rows in Asha's hair and she looked so cute!!! I did learn alot from Momma D on how to take care of Asha's hair. We just love Momma D so much and we put the pictures we took of her visit up on Asha's wall so she can see her Momma D and brother all the time.

When Momma D got home she e-mailed to let me know they got home ok and to tell me that she loves us even more than she ever thought she could and that she is so happy to have us as her extended family. We feel the same way about her and her kids.


Syd said...

That sounds like such a wonderful visit. And how great to have her call you after and say how great it was for her too. We have been lucky to have semi open adoptions with both of our children too. We visit regularly with our daughters Birth Grandma and her two younger daughters. And a few months ago our sons birthmom decided she'd love to get together (we were willing to be very open, she wasn't ready), so for the first time in two years we got to have lunch with her. So fun. We got some wonderful pictures for our son. We also got to meet his big sister for the first time. Your daughter is beautiful!! I found your blog through Bek's! My blog is

Have a great day!!