Sunday, September 21, 2008

Family Week

Ok I just thought of a good post especially for those of you out there who have adopted and have open adoptions with your children's birth family.

Last week it was family week at Asha's school and we had to make a collage of all the things about our family. I asked the teacher what exactly she was looking for because I don't exactly have any recent pictures of Asha's brother and dad and I was also wondering if we should include her birthfamily or if that would confuse the other kids. She said I could do what ever I wanted. If i just wanted to do me and Asha that was fine if I wanted to include her dad and brother that was fine and if I wanted to include her birth family that was fine. So basically she was no help at all.

I did decide to put everyone in including her birth family because I do tell her that they are her family and that her bio sibs are her brother and sister and I didn't want to confuse her by not putting them in.

So my question is what do all of you other mothers do who have open adoptions when this kind of thing comes up at school? Do you just do your family or do you add the birth family?

Just curious because I'm sure this won't be the last time this will come up.

Thanks for any suggestions, advice, stories you want to give.

Update on Us

Sorry Rebekah that I haven't been posting. Work has been crazy hectic and when I get home just want to spend time with my girl and relax a little.

The other week we spent the whole week concentrating on Asha not having accidents. When she came back from her dad's last time she had accidents all week at school and even a few at home. It took me until last Saturday to get her to stop having them. She just didn't want to tell anyone she had to go so she would go in her pants. She was fine last week though.

Her and I have also been fighting colds so trying to mend that way as well. Not much else going on worth posting about. Just regular life stuff.

She is missing her brother alot and when I dropped her off on Friday she unbuckled so fast and tried to get out of the car because she saw him that it cracked him up. He was laughing when she got out because she was so excited to see him. He even had to take her to the bathroom because he is all she wanted. We went to his old school the other week for a friends daughter's volleyball game and Asha remembered that it was his school and kept asking if he was there and I had to let her know that it wasn't his school anymore. It didn't help that we ran into some of his old friends and they asked if he was with us.

It's a good thing she isn't old enough to realize yet when her dad doesn't call on his designated days because he didn't call her at all this week. Usually if he misses a day he will atleast try to call the next day but he made no attempt at all to call her. If this happens when she's old enough to understand I will have to do something about it. She doesn't deserve to be hurt anymore than he's already hurt her.

Tomorrow she has gymnastics so that will be fun. I've tried to get more pictures of her doing that but the lighting in there isn't the best and all the pictures turn out dark. I've probably posted enough of those pictures though. I do have a few from the other day I will try to post at some point.

Hope everyone has a good week!!

Sunday, September 07, 2008

Labor Day Weekend

We had a really good holiday weekend. Saturday we spent 3 hours at the beach and then came home to have the next door neighbors girls invite Asha to play in the sprinklers. The girl pretty much spent a whole day in her bikini which is absolutely in love with.
Here she is with her froggy innertube. It took her 2 hours to wade into the water up to her butt. She loves the beach just not the water.
Filling froggies face with mud. She liked to pretend her feet were stuck in the mud and ask me to "save" her and pull her out. Then she would shove my feet into the mud and "save" me.
Here she's doing a little splashing of her own. A boy ran past her and splashed her and she turns around and yells "Don't Splash Me!!" My friend who was with us cracked up laughing because her daughter is so quiet she would never yell at someone for splashing her. My friend was like "Wow she can take care of herself"!!

Trying very hard to take her sand castle with her. Unfortunately for her after this picture she picked it up and it crumbled so it was off to make another one.

The next door neighbor girl gave Asha her old Princess scooter and Asha has been on it almost every day since then. She absolutely loves it and the bell that came on it.

The weather was beautiful the whole weekend and we just had a really nice time being together and having so much fun. On Labor Day we ended up roasting marshmallows with her Grandma and Papa and cousin before bedtime and that was really nice. She enjoyed that and got VERY sticky.

Hope everyone had a nice holiday weekend as well.